Welcome to When Love Hurts

When Love Hurts is an abuse recovery blog. It exists to educate, encourage, and assist women facing domestic violence or spousal abuse, separation, or divorce, and women struggling in dysfunctional marriages or recovering from childhood abuse issues,. Further, it exists to educate pastors, churches, and ministries about abuse, its effects on women and families, and to provides tools and resources for healing. When Love Hurts offers biblical hope, practical help, and spiritual healing to abuse survivors and those who love them by pointing them to Jesus Christ, the true source of life and healing.

Friday, July 30, 2010

Abuse Recovery ools and Resources

by Guest Writer Catriana Boyle

One of the hardest parts of dealing with abuse is coming forward and accepting that the abuse has happened, and that the victim needs help. Many may be in denial, and instead try to bury their experiences instead of having to deal with the pain of recognizing what happened and dealing with the outcome.

Counselling can be an excellent tool to help people overcome abuse. In a safe, confidential environment, free of judgment, the victim is able to discuss and work through their issues, dealing with the effects the abuse has had on their life, and learning to move on.

However, once sometime decides to undertake counseling there are numerous issues to consider – practical and otherwise. What about, for example, location? Despite counsellors’ assured complete confidentiality people may prefer to see a counsellor that is perhaps outside their local area, but still in surroundings they are comfortable in.

Counselling can take many different approaches – from person-based to psychoanalytic, and it’s important to choose a counsellor with an approach the person will be comfortable with and respond to well.

Counselling Directory was set up to provide a simple, easy, and most importantly un-daunting way of connecting people that need help with the people that provide it. A comprehensive searching tool, the site allows postcode, town and country searches, and produces a list of counsellors registered in this area. Each counsellor has a profile, listing a bit about themselves, their approaches, what areas they deal with, and all their training, qualification and experience and fees, all in one simple search.

The site has also become a huge information bank – there are articles written by the counsellors, as well as comprehensive information on all kinds of distress – from depression to eating disorders to abuse, to help people identify their problems and become informed, not scared.

Visit http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Surviving Abuse: Free Download

Surviving Abuse: Free download from Kyria.com:
If you or someone you love has suffered through sexual, physical, verbal, or emotional abuse, working through this guide will help you figure out how and where to get help. You’ll read stories of women who’ve survived and triumphed over various kinds of abuse—and have come forward to share their stories in order to help others break the silence on the epidemic of abuse. Most of all, you’ll receive hope from people who’ve endured the pain—and lived to tell of God’s healing comfort. Download here.

Thursday, January 21, 2010

A Father's Love

Experience the Father's love with this touching video:



Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Freedom for the Captives

"The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me, because the LORD has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners."
~Jesus

Focus Ministries

FOCUS Ministries provides a safe place for those who experience domestic violence to find hope and healing in Jesus Christ. Watch this and listen to the song "Safe Place" by Lessmyself.



Wednesday, November 25, 2009

How Do I Know Which Counsellor is Right for Me?


by guest blogger Catriona Boyle

Making the decision to seek counselling is arguably the hardest step of the entire process. Accepting and admitting there is a problem and deciding to tackle it is the first step on the long, difficult road to recovery. But once the initial step has been taken, there are many issues to be considered and questions to be answered.

For example, in terms of practicality, what about location? Often people prefer to see a counsellor that is perhaps outside their local area, but still in surroundings they are comfortable in, and somewhere easily accessible to them.

Money is of course a paramount issue to everyone. Many counsellors offer reduced rates for students, the unemployed or those receiving benefits, but how do you find them? No one wants to end up bartering with a counsellor over the price of their mental wellbeing.

Checking qualifications and accreditation is something to also consider. However, the number different qualifications and professional bodies can be overwhelming.

Counselling can take many different approaches – from person-based to psychoanalytic, and it’s important to choose a counsellor with an approach the person will be comfortable with and respond to well.

A daunting situation indeed. However, there is a website that can answer all of these questions, issues and worries. Counselling Directory (www.counselling-directory.org.uk) was set up to provide a simple and easy way of connecting people that need help with the people that provide it. A comprehensive searching tool, the site allows postcode, town and county searches in the U.K., and produces a list of counsellors registered in this area. Each counsellor has a profile, listing a bit about themselves, their approaches, which areas they specialise in and all their training, qualifications, experience and fees.

The site shows which counsellors are registered/accredited with a professional body, and full profiles are only displayed after insurance and qualification documents are checked or membership with a professional body has been verified.

We’ve heard from many people who have found the site invaluable, reducing the amount of stress and worry that can contribute to an already difficult enough process.

Visit www.counselling-directory.org.uk for more information.

Saturday, October 24, 2009

Educational Materials for Pastors and Churches

Churches may use these articles to educate staff and/or their congregations about emotional abuse and its effects on families. The documents below are in PDF format:

 
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